Change the Way You and Others Look at You
By Briana DelBuono
Everyone has those days where they feel down about themselves, but boosting overall confidence is possible with a little help from your inner goddess.
Being comfortable with yourself is not going to happen overnight but it is something you can continually work toward.
Start by replacing negative words with positive ones. Everyone has things about themselves they would love to change, but accepting those flaws and embracing them will eventually allow you to grow to love the skin you’re in.
It may seem silly but don’t doubt yourself or your abilities. An important thing to remember is that no matter what you wish, you can never be anyone but you.
You’re the only you there is ever going to be, and you’re beautiful! Be grateful that the world is blessed by someone as cool as you.
No one is ever going to love you as much as you, and probably your mom, love you. Take care of yourself as best as you can. No, that doesn’t mean getting a pedicure once a month, although you should. Taking care of yourself is a way of life.
Read books that interest you, maintain good hygiene and drink tea.
Stay away from over-eating, workout often and buy clothes that fit you.
Embrace change, try to cure bad habits, know your limits, and lastly, forgive yourself when you make bad decisions. You’re only human.
No one is perfect, but you don’t have to become frustrated because of that. Confidence is about being the best that you can be and not giving up when you make mistakes or your efforts fail. Change takes time.
Don’t complain about what your face looks like after you take off your makeup. Makeup is fun but isn’t permanent. Your beauty, however, is.
Know your strengths and weaknesses and don’t let them weigh you down. If you are working towards a specific goal, get to know yourself in the process and work at a pace that’s best for you. Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither were you.
Accepting compliments instead of brushing them off is a great way to become comfortable with yourself and your body. Compliments are always nice to give and receive but if you constantly divert them, people will be less likely to go out of their way to say them.
A big factor in being confident in the skin you’re in is respect. Respect yourself enough to ask for what you want and don’t settle because you think others want you to. Respect yourself enough to make decisions from within.
Going to the gym helped me gain confidence and become at ease with myself. Find whatever it is that gives you that rush and pursue it with full force.
Eye contact screams confidence, looking down at your shoes shows a lack of it. If that’s a habit you find yourself doing, try to break it. It’ll help you feel and look more professional and approachable.
Always dress to impress. It may be hard to wake up an extra hour early so that you can get dolled up but it’ll worth it in the end. This brings us back to compliments.
People notice when you do things differently so spice it up. Wear clothes that fit you well and a hairstyle that accentuates your face shape. These small improvements will speak volumes in the long run.
Keep negative people and their negative words at bay. It doesn’t mean you have to go around swinging at anyone who criticizes you, but familiarize yourself with the line between jealousy and constructive criticism.
Pay attention to who’s looking out for your best interests. Listen to the ones that know you well enough to weigh in on your life and ignore anyone else.
Think of yourself as the person you are. How you perceive yourself is as obvious as if you wore the words on your skin itself. You wouldn’t want to write negative words on your own skin, so don’t do it in your head.
Try to change something small in your daily routine that makes you feel better. Wear a different cologne or perfume for a month. This small adjustment will make you more self aware and you’ll feel like you’re doing something for yourself that is completely your own.
Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. I haven’t conquered it in my 22 years and I’m sure I have a ways to go. I try my hardest to always be my best self and that will always factor in positively towards my confidence, you should try it too.