How To Survive a Long Distance Relationship, From a Self-Proclaimed Expert
By: Jessica Scarimbolo
When a relationship becomes long distance, it automatically takes on a more serious role. This is because without two committed partners, long distances relationships are more prone to failure.
In my opinion, there are a few inevitable components that a long distance relationship should have in order to be successful: an end date, trust, communication and effort.
This being said, long distances relationships can definitely work and are worth it!
I, myself, am in a long distance relationship, and have worked through these issues with my girlfriend, because they are incredibly difficult to know without some trial and error.
Firstly, knowing that the long distance component of the relationship is only temporary makes surviving with miles between much easier.
If you are aware that your time apart will eventually come to a permanent end, it seems to be the light at the end of a tunnel. Similarly, you will always have the end to look forward to!
As you and your partner reach another month or year closer, it is a reminder that your relationship is closer to reaching normalcy.
If you constantly have to worry about what your partner is doing while you are gone, and do not have trust between one another, it is hard to say that the relationship will last.
Being in separate cities, states or even countries requires trust to know that though the person will encounter many other people, they will remain faithful to you.
My girlfriend goes out to bars a few times a month and I am well aware that there are many people who will look at her, or even make a comment towards her. However, I trust her enough to know that she is committed to me though we have hundreds of miles separating us.
Before you can love someone else, you have to love and take care of yourself.
Lack of trust can drive you crazy, leaving you constantly wondering and worrying what your partner is doing and if they are being faithful.
Even if you and your partner are on different schedules, it is important to make sure to communicate any chance you get.
In 2017, we are very fortunate to be so technologically advanced, allowing us to get in contact with someone at the touch of a button.
Communicating has never been easier than it is today, leaving little room for excuses when it comes to a long distance relationship.
Call, text, FaceTime, Skype, anything! Ask your partner how their day was and let them know you are thinking of them.
On this same note, both members of the relationship should put in equal amounts of effort.
You should both be willing to move around your schedules in order to spend time together: both over the phone and in person.
A long distance relationship is difficult without ever seeing each other.
My girlfriend and I make it a point to see each other at least once a month, where we watch movies, go on dates, and spend time doing things that people in normal relationships do.
With all that being said, long distance relationships are a great test of how strong your relationship is.
If you have worked through all your challenges and have finally reached the end of your time apart, you can be much more confident that you two are built to last.
When you reach a month or even a year together while apart, make sure to celebrate!
Working and growing with another person is a beautiful, but also an incredibly challenging thing.
Long distance is a mole hill, not a mountain, and hard work from you and your partner can get you through it smoothly.
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