As Told by a Girl
By: Lucia Rossi
We are taught that first impressions are everything, and we gather assumptions from those impressions within seconds. It’s unavoidable but at the very least, somewhat controllable.
The way you impress a person determines what a potential partner will think of you and will impact your possible relationship with them.
If you’re single and ready to mingle, keep in mind that every second counts.
I’m not here to tell you how to become a master pick-up artist, or how to get laid, or how to make a woman fall in love with you.
My hope for you is that you gain some knowledge on how to present your best self to someone who you continuously want to date.
Sometimes people don’t even need to try very hard. It is possible to be impressive by just being yourself.
However, if you think you don’t communicate your strong points well, think potential partners aren’t seeing what’s amazing about you or what you can offer, or if you often get benched in the friend zone, then here’s what you should keep in mind so women will realize why they should be with you.
Let’s start with the most obvious necessities, hygiene.
When going out on dates, you should try to dress to impress by putting some thought into your ensemble.
Depending on where you’re going, dress appropriately in a mature and fashionably casual manner.
For example, think clean jeans, a button-down shirt, and a nice sports or leather jacket. Don’t put on too much cologne, three sprays is enough.
Style your hair if it’s looking wild, shave your face or at least groom it and don’t forget to check your breath.
Remember, a sense of fashion and looking like you take care of yourself, is attractive.
Now, let’s talk etiquette. Try not to use your phone so much while you’re on a date.
It’s impressive when a guy can show his self-control against social media.
If there’s a phone call you need to take, then make it known so it doesn’t come off as rude. Don’t text constantly either, you should be focused on what’s right in front of you.
Also, when it comes to after the date, don’t text her all the time. Show that your best conversations are in person, face-to-face, and do nightly phone calls instead. It’s more personal and will help build a better connection.
Showing her you’re respectful, mature, and have manners, can also be proven with chivalrous acts. Try some classic acts like holding the door open, offering to pay for the date, and helping her put on her coat.
If she rejects the gesture, remember it’s the thought that counts and that will reflect on you as a person.
Also, don’t smoke around her unless you know she’s okay with it. That can be an instant turnoff to some people.
As for drinking, do not get drunk on the date–unless she clearly wants to do the same. Show you’re responsible and that there’s a time and place for everything.
Eye contact is paramount. That shows you’re interested, shamelessly presents your emotions, shows you’re present, and can be a flirtatious weapon if done right.
Don’t creepily stare all the time either, but gracefully observe. Notice the little things about her mannerisms, and pay attention to the small details.
A person’s facial expressions, how they speak, what they choose to wear, can say a lot about them. Someone who can read people, notice the little things, and draw conclusions, is impressive. Try not to go Sherlock on them though and don’t be openly judgemental.
When trying to impress a woman, you should be confident but not arrogant. Don’t brag, let there be a slow reveal of who you are.
Show that you can be comfortable and that she can be too. If you want to be accepted for who you are, accept them too.
Expect that there will be flaws but be understanding. Ladies are impressed by men that make them feel safe but aren’t pushy.
Which brings me to my next point, show you’re interested in her personality and her story, don’t be too touchy or use sexy language if this is a serious date.
Is it possible for the heat to turn up? Yeah, sure. Could things end up in a bedroom? Sure, they could.
However, that should not be your end game. It will say so much of your character if you make it a gradual process.
The build-up will raise the excitement and leave some mystery. Keep in mind that the goal is to take your relationship from dating, to something more serious.
Don’t be too sexually forward, go at her pace and always ask for consent.
Make sure to give her a truly genuine, well-thought out compliment that incorporates both her looks and personality. For example, don’t just say, “That’s a nice dress,” say, “You look beautiful in that dress.”
It’s easy to compliment objects, and harder to compliment people.
If you want to compliment her body, just go for the face if you’re in the early stages. Compliment her laugh, smile, or eyes. Don’t go below the neck.
Watch where your eyes are going when she speaks. Don’t make it obvious you’re checking her out, and please, don’t check out other people.
The most important part of your dates together isn’t where you go, what you eat, what you do, it’s the conversations you have. This is where you really show your true colors.
Intelligence is super attractive and impressive. Talk about what you’re most knowledgeable or passionate about.
Also, use your sense of humor to your advantage, and show that you’re able to laugh at yourself. Try not to talk badly about people and try not to come off as offensive.
It’s important that you show you’re independent and able to do things on your own too. You need to build trust and dependability. If you say you’re gonna call or text, then do it. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
A man who knows what he wants is impressive. So, talk about what you’re looking for in life, in a partner, and don’t be afraid to get personal.
Being able to open up about insecurities is also impressive because your candor can be refreshing.
If you can, show that you’re helpful and selfless, that is wildly impressive. You can do this by making a small gesture of kindness, whether it’s giving her flowers, buying her her favorite dessert, sending a sweet good morning text, asking how she is feeling about something sensitive, or going out of your way to help her with something.
Give her a taste of your talent as well, this will surely get you some brownie points. If you like to write, send her some of your work. If you like to cook, make her dinner. Do what you’re good at, don’t just talk about it.
Overall, don’t act too eager or invested if she is not reciprocating and don’t immediately commit yourself to something that wasn’t agreed upon officially.
In the end, whether you succeed in impressing her or not, don’t expect anything in return.
Do nice things because they are nice and because you want to, not because you think the woman owes you. Accept her choices whatever they may be.
And If she isn’t interested, then let her go.
Categories: Sex and Relationships