These Tips Will Have You Thriving in No Tim
By: Brielle Sparacino
The concept of “living your best life” is something easier said than done.
It’s safe to say that most of us want to measure up to our fullest potential; most of us want to live and speak our truth, and be as happy as we’re able to be. However, there are many variables that have the ability to stand in our way: fizzled-out friendships, failed relationships, mental illnesses, or plain old insecurity and self esteem issues.
One does not learn how to live their best life overnight; making mistakes to be learned from every day becomes part of the process. Nevertheless, as long as you’ve got a plan and are willing to put that plan into action, you will be able to get into the healthy habits of making your life something to be proud of.
Start living your best life by being selfish. For so long, the act of selfishness has only been viewed as a negative thing, but it doesn’t have to be. Put yourself first for once.
Most of the time, we’re so caught up in the day-to-day action that we don’t take a shred of time for ourselves. Even if you exercise for an hour, listen to music, walk in the park or call a friend, you’re allowing yourself to take a breather and focus on you.
Not only do you have to be a little selfish with your personal time, but you’ve also got to fake confidence in yourself, especially if you’re struggling with it. We are who we are, regardless of what we don’t like about ourselves.
We could spend our time worrying about what others think of our “flaws,” or we can embrace them in a different light.
There will always be that little voice in the back of your mind that tries to tear you down and make you feel worthless, but you don’t have to let it. Remind yourself that you are great the way you are, and if that’s not good enough for others, then they don’t need to be in your life.
Acceptance is a huge obstacle to overcome when you’re on the path to self-love and fulfillment. Each individual embarks on a different journey; it may seem like some people your age are light-years ahead of you when it comes to success in their personal lives or their career, but you’ve got to accept where you’re at and have the drive to work harder to get where you want to be.
The concept of acceptance is not only applicable to success in your personal life or career, but in friendship and romantic relationships as well.
If a meaningful friendship fizzled out or a relationship went south, don’t try to continually put in effort when that effort isn’t being reciprocated. Regardless of its nature, a relationship is supposed to be 50/50, not 80/20.
Once you accept that things won’t go back to the way they were and it wasn’t your fault they went wrong in the first place, you’ll have a much clearer head when moving forward with your life.
Making the most of your energy each day is a vital aspect to living your best life. You are the only one in charge of how you choose to feel, so if you encounter a situation that has serious potential to affect you negatively, try your best to take control of it, as well as your emotions, so you don’t get too angry or upset.
If you take a step back and analyze the situation from an outsider’s perspective, it will be easier for you to decide how you want to feel, more than likely eliminating the irrational feelings that tend to rear their ugly heads.
Another necessity to living your best life is being able to surround yourself with good people. If you’ve ever been around someone who is always grumpy and pessimistic, their characteristics may have influenced your way of life at some point in that relationship, and you may have noticed behavioral changes similar to that person in some way.
But good people bring good energy, and the more good energy you have around, the more positive your attitude and outlook on life will be.
You need to learn to be in the moment, and this piece of advice serves as the most important of them all. We’re college students, so we’re always worried about every aspect of our future; what we’re going to pursue as a career, how we’re going to make enough money to live on, etc.
Stop worrying about tomorrow, or next month, or next year.
As difficult as it could be, enjoy the moment you’re living in right now, because it’s one you won’t be able to get back later.