Love is the Best Gift
By Lucia Rossi
She gave birth to you and she never let’s you forget it. She puts up with your shenanigans and it is time to say thanks for making the best mistake, you. That’s right, it’s Mother’s Day.
You can make this holiday as big or as little as you like. Everyone has a different relationship with their mothers, some good, some not-so good. This day doesn’t have to be about your biological mother, it could be any mother you love and appreciate: your stepmother, grandmother, aunt, sister, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, best friend, cousin, neighbor, etc.
Don’t let your Mother’s Day rehash any old feelings and memories of your childhood that you would rather forget. Make this day an adventure filled with new memories and laughter about the good times. Give your mom a moment to feel cherished. That’s what it’s all about.
Plan out your day accordingly so you have surprises, gifts, activities, and meals ready. Mother’s Day is an extremely busy holiday and you don’t want to get caught in the rush and lines. Talk to some family members or friends about aiding you in your game plan. Try to have everything ready the day before at least.
Some people may believe Mother’s Day is just another Hallmark holiday. If you agree, then don;t give them your money. Do things yourself. Personally made gifts go far beyond just buying one. You can write your own card or make one online. There are so many sites for e-cards.
When it comes to flowers, consider going to the florists a few days early or ordering a week in advance for delivery and pray it comes on time. To ensure prompt arrival, I would say go get them yourself. If you want to avoid the crazy marked-up prices, go to a floral department in your local supermarket. Mix up some bouquets yourself and see what else they have to add to it to dress it up, or you can go to a 99 cent store and buy your own vase and ribbon. Most floral departments in supermarkets like Stop & Shop will accept orders in advance as well for a much more decent price.
Make your mom feel special by surprising her with breakfast in bed or lunch at her favorite restaurant. Lunch time would be the best time to go because dinner will be packed. I would suggest making dinner, her favorite dish of course, at home so it is more personal and private. Don’t forget dessert! That’s the best part and you should spoil her diet with a delicious cake or pastry.
Plan an activity to do with your mom during the day. Think of what she likes to do for fun, what does she really enjoy, where has she been wanting to go lately? Maybe go to the park, the movies, on a shopping spree, to a museum, to a concert or play, or make an appointment for two at the local spa and salon. This is your chance to do something fun too!
The best time to do chores is when no one is nagging you to do it. So do your mother a favor and clean the house for her. Make it spotless, make it sparkle. A much needed cleaning can be a great surprise. Take this opportunity to fix whatever she’s been complaining about in the house. Maybe set up a new project to do together to help decorate or fix a space.
If you know your mother is dying for a certain product, then get it for her. Don’t give her typical, thoughtless, mom-gifts like oven mitts and an apron. Get her gifts that you know she will use that really reflects her personality and style. Try to think outside the box here and get her something interesting that she won’t expect. If she is very particular, then find out what exactly is she looking for. You could also just look around the house, what does she need? What needs to be replaced or upgraded? Or you can make your own gifts. Pinterest can give you hundreds of ideas. Trust your instincts and when in doubt, ask for a second opinion from someone else who knows her.
For the love of all that is good, try your hardest not to fight with your mother on Mother’s Day. Use your mighty virtue of patience to the fullest and then rant about it the next day at work. But for this day, her day, try not to make it about you. Don’t sweat the small stuff, just let it go and move on to the next thing. If you can’t take anymore, don’t make a scene, don’t bring up the past, just cut the night short. If things go badly, have a plan B.
If things that are out of your control go wrong, don’t feel bad. You can celebrate literally any day. Any day can be your Mother’s Day. It is what you make of it, so make it worth while. Let your mom feel loved because no matter what happens, you love her and she loves you.
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