When The Honeymoon Phase is Over, The Real Work Begins
By Robert LaRosa
When he or she agrees to being your significant other, it’s a terrific feeling. If it was on a movie set, fire works would go off and doves would fly everywhere.
Well, let’s get back to reality real quick.
First thing, right off the bat, to know is that not every relationship is perfect. In fact, probably 99.9% of them are far from it. However, if perfection is something you and your significant other are striving for, here are some tips.
Before I start, I’m not saying that this is one hundred percent effective or I know everything. What I am saying is that within my own relationship, I see what works well and what doesn’t
Everyone always says it and it reigns true, communication is without a doubt the number one key in a relationship.
If you and your partner don’t communicate, how do you ever expect to grow, get over issues and/ or understand each other?
Being able to discuss important issues with them should be a given in any relationship but it may not seem as easy as one would think.
If you’re in the early stages of your relationship, communication is the number one factor. Your relationship is still developing and maybe you guys are still trying to work out some kinks more than longer and more mature relationships.
You guys should just speak to each other about whatever problems you have going on whether they’re about each other or not. If you guys speak about each of your pasts and the other partners you’ve had, keep the conversation for a one time talk.
Understand where you guys were before you met and keep your mind open. You guys weren’t together when somebody else was in the picture and there’s nothing worse in a relationship than bringing up old ex’s. Trust me that conversation is going to suck.
You’re crazy about this person and the thought of them with someone else is going to piss you off, but, hey, it’s just a one time conversation to get a better mind set of each other.
Another conversation that could affect your situation is the bedroom. Ah yes, where all the fun happens.
When it comes to sex, this isn’t the entirety of your relationship, unless you guys agreed on this but (I’m speaking about a committed relationship) but it does play a large role in relationships.
Talk to your partner, in a respectful way, about things that you want to try or things you don’t like. You shouldn’t be afraid to discuss these things with your partner, no matter how awkward or embarrassed you feel.
On the flip side of that, trying new things in the bedroom could spice things up as long as you both talked about it prior and are comfortable with it. This should be common sense but you never know nowadays.
Compromise is another factor in a relationship that should be addressed. Look, every relationship will have a fair share of fights and that’s completely healthy.
A relationship with zero fighting looks, to me anyways, suspicious because it just looks so one sided.
Open up and try new things with your partner. Do something they want to do and the same would apply back to them.
At the end of the day, you both agreed to date each other and, sooner or later, this person should feel like your best friend.
Talk to them, discuss personal issues whether your significant other is involved with them or not. Just be there for each other and try to be the best partner you can possibly be.
At the end of the day, it comes down to making an effort and being civil towards each other. Don’t start a screaming match when you guys are discussing shaky topics such as sex, compromise, and other sensitive topics.
Please, for the sake of your relationship keep an open mind and keep your cool in heated moments.
Relationships are supposed to be fun and create some of the greatest memories of your life.
If you find yourself stuck in a relationship where those factors don’t exist the real question is what are you doing and why are you wasting your time?