The Three Keys to Positivity

Important Lessons for Your Emotional Well-Being

By: Brielle Sparacino

Staying positive during life’s rough patches can make all the difference. (Credit:

It’s incredibly easy to let every negative emotion you feel get the best of you; that’s why most of us do it.

Science has always told us it takes more muscles to frown than to smile, but it rarely seems that way when we’re going through something difficult to deal with.

No matter the situation, all we usually want to do is wallow about it for long periods of time, but that is an unhealthy practice that can lead to bigger, self-inflicted issues.

The good thing is that there are better ways to cope with the tidal wave of emotions that come with the backlash of incomprehensible problems.

One of the most important lessons you need to know in order to keep your mental and emotional health in check is to acknowledge that it’s okay to let yourself feel what you’re feeling.

Many people in this world think that by repressing your emotions after something devastating or traumatizing happens, you’ve coped with the issue at hand, but that isn’t true.

The truth of the matter is, it’s the most unhealthy thing you can do for your well-being.

If you’re feeling hurt, upset or frustrated, remind yourself that these are natural reactions to what you’ve experienced; you’re not immediately going to feel okay. If you need to grieve, whether it be the loss of a friendship, a relationship or the passing of someone close to you, then allow yourself to do that.

It’s better to work through those emotions than to force yourself to feel indifferent in that moment, because if another problem triggers those same emotions later on and you’ve never dealt with them, chances are it’s not going to be pretty for anyone.

Another important lesson is to accept the situation for what it is. Of course you’re feeling a certain way, but while you want to allow yourself to work through what you’re feeling, you can’t change what’s already happened either.

You’ve got to remind yourself that what’s done is done, and that choosing the high road will feel better in the long run.

This lesson also ties into the subject of revenge. If someone has wronged you in any way, getting revenge seems like the only logical answer.

Unfortunately, by getting revenge, you’re only receiving instant gratification and it will prolong your internal healing process because you’re prolonging the hurt you’re feeling.

It’s hard to not take advantage of an opportunity to get back at someone, but you have to let yourself believe that what goes around, comes around.

The best revenge is to make yourself a better person, and treat everything you endure as a learning experience.

The last major key to positivity is forgiveness.

Whether it’s forgiving yourself or the other person or people, the simple act itself allows you to get the weight of the situation off of your shoulders.

Many of us hold grudges, and when we do this, we’re choosing to hold on to our anger, our hurt and our frustration.

Forgiveness might be the last thing on your mind, but you’ll definitely feel better if you choose to do it. However, forgiving doesn’t mean you have to forget what’s happened.

You can still hold someone accountable for their actions while accepting the fact that you can’t change what they’ve done.

Forgiveness is about your growth and your maturity. It’s about finally letting yourself feel at peace.

The keys to positivity aren’t able to be achieved overnight; there are so many individuals in this world who hold onto their anger out of spite or out of fear that if they let go of that grudge, they’ll stop feeling emotions they’ve grown so used to feeling.

Even if it takes some people longer than others to achieve a healthy emotional state, simply knowing the keys of positivity are a step in the right direction.

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