Sex and Relationships

She Comes First: The Importance of Cunnilingus

By: Dominick Wojtas

Credit: souvenirpress.co.uk

When it comes to the bedroom, many men believe that they know it all; sex is innate and further education is not necessary.

This sort of male bravado is exactly what leaves women destitute, yearning for more and jealous of her partner’s seemingly effortless orgasm.

Thankfully, due to one man’s obsession with pleasing woman orally, an easy-to-read, a comprehensive guide to the art of cunnilingus exists.

Ian Kerner, Ph.D, dissects the complexities of the female anatomy and pleasure centers in his book “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.”

Cunnilingus can be defined as oral sex performed on female genitalia.

In the book, Kerner explains why cunnilingus is the optimal way to not only bring a female to a lip biting, body-quivering orgasm, but also to help the lucky lady experience this sensation again and again during the course of one session.

He also includes a fact check by taking the reader through the motions of a female orgasm, just to be sure these bursts of pleasure are the real thing and not a phony show.

The first half of the book sets the stage by covering the female anatomy as it relates to sexual stimulation. The text is assisted by line drawings charting female anatomy, enhancing his words with these helpful illustrations.

The second half is more hands on, literally. It is filled with techniques for stimulating each part of the vagina. At the very end of the book, readers will learn how to combine these techniques together, even with scripted routines that will help fine tune this symphony of pleasure.

Kerner includes six steps that should be taken in order to induce female orgasm: The First Kiss, Establishing Rhythm, Developing Tension, Escalation, Pre-Orgasm, and Orgasm. He guides the reader through each step explaining how to best get your tongue, gums, teeth, lips, and hands involved in the mission.

In the book, Kerner also alludes to the fact that intercourse was never meant to stimulate women to orgasm.

His anatomical reason states that, “the clitoris is about 2 to 3 cm closer to the front of a woman’s body than the vaginal opening. During intercourse, the penis often misses the clitoris altogether.”

As further evidence for this theory, he writes “The average man can maintain genital thrusting for two and a half minutes before ejaculation, but the average woman requires fifteen to eighteen minutes of persistent clitoral stimulation to have her first orgasm. That twelve-and-a-half-minute difference is a gaping maw of frustration on the part of women.”

As if his evidence wasn’t thorough enough, Kerner includes a statement from Ron Jeremy, a legend in the porn industry, ranked No.1 in AVN’s “50 Top Porn Stars of All Time” list.

“More women have gotten off with my tongue than with my penis”, said Jeremy.

But in light of accusations against Kerner for downplaying the role of the penis, he’s quick to say, “I wrote the cunnilingust manifesto, but I’m not proposing a Stalinist purge of the penis. I love my penis as much as the next guy. In many ways, though, my tongue was the mentor to my penis, and taught it to behave like a gentleman.”

The target demographic for this book is any man who wants have a happy, healthy sex life and understand a women’s sexual needs. In other words, any male in a heterosexual  relationship should pick this book up.

Even if one doesn’t fall under this category, Kerner has released the companion book, “He Comes Next: The Thinking Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man.”

There are at least two easily obtainable, comprehensive, thoroughly researched guides on learning how to induce priceless pleasure for both sexes.

There should be no excuses for poor sex; hit the books and take notes!

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