by Andrea C.
Have you considered living with your partner sooner, rather than later? Living and laughing in the same habitat, environment, or space whatever your terms might be, you will have to understand the expense and effort it takes when it comes to living with your partner. Especially when you both might be in your twenties fresh into the “finding yourself” era.
Right into it, the ultimate solution is to find other solutions! Whatever the situation, you both need to remember to reconcile and never belittle one another, even when the discussion is heavy. Simple steps can be hard for many people but finding the Compromise, Communication, and Compassion you must give to each other since the decision was made for both parties to be a partnership. When finding the middle ground seems impossible, both young adults should be able to vocalize the issues and find the root of the problem. Some might find this difficult but that should be a red flag to you, you are telling me there is no way they cannot be capable of sharing.
Compromise is vital when being in any relationship let alone living with one another at an age of self-discovery and self-righteous. While many find it to be a simple discussion, not every human being is capable of compromise. This may not be the sign for you to run like others but consider yourself and the patience you would have for your partner. Discussions could vary based on schedules, family events/issues, and even hygiene. You and your partner could have things in common, however in a shared space you will be familiar with a different version of them. Finding your middle ground as well as considering your own self-respect, and your own feelings is how the beginning stages could go with ease when settling in together.
Compassion stems as a gift from you to them, you think about their days and rave even more when you know how it went but light up when they tell you. Remember the “Get to know you” phase with your partner and the excitement that outpours as you get to know them for the first time. Compassion is like those beginning feelings, you attempt to understand them at every level. Now regarding living together, in that shared space, remember why you decided to be there with them in this new chapter forget the possible outcomes, and focus on the desired one you dream about. Both of you will benefit from even one person showing compassion because once that feeling is shown and whether the other enjoys it or not it will be taken into consideration every day.
Communication is key, that’s the saying right? Well as heavy-hearted as it might be, it is something that should always be approached in any relationship. Your partner and you might find hard moments throughout the course of the relationship but being on the same page is important to avoiding tripping over one another. This all fallback on understanding each other, and the expectations or desires for each other, it is another form of being intimate that you all would look back on and never regret.
Living with anyone else can get messy therefore solutions need to be discussed for any sort of future & understand that life is hard for everyone so love whenever you can and live kindly even in the toughest times.
