Learning to Free Yourself From Life’s Negativity
By: Lucia Elmi
Let’s face it, life isn’t so easy. Some days, you get caught up in the daily magic of living that time flies by so fast you don’t even have a moment to stop and think.
But other days can be a drag, full of uncertainty and a dullness that bleeds grey onto everything. For some of it is a series of long days, but for others it could even be years.
We don’t want to feel like our life is at a standstill. We want to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel, signifying better days to come.
So, fear not, for there is a solution to all your problems. Here is a simple guide that will be sure to help you out in any tough situation you are in, all methods tried and tested.
Vent, don’t be afraid.
Go ahead and interrupt everyone’s conversations with your problems, they won’t have the heart to tell you that they were in the middle of speaking.
Let it break free, whether it is onto your friends, your coworkers, spouses, kids, or even your pet goldfish; just spread your feelings all over.
Give your problems all of your attention.
This will enable you to excuse yourself from daily responsibilities, so you can devote yourself to your dilemma. It’s just another way of saying that need a “mental health day.”
Have a get together with friends tonight? Cancel it. Need to visit your grandpa in the hospital? Scratch that, too. Your problems come first, above all.
Break up the load.
That’s right, blame your issues on others, because after all, you are only human and simply cannot carry such a dragging weight alone. Generously lend it to another helping hand.
Give yourself positive affirmations over and over again until you actually start believing it.
Our inner dialogue has the power to shape our reality. If someone asks if you’re okay, by all means, tell them you’re doing “super-duper.”
Picked up an expensive spending habit lately? Have no fear.
Your bank account isn’t important for your happiness, self-indulgence is. Having an empty wallet is not nearly as bad as having an empty void in your heart.
Label yourself. Labels have an immense power to help define our identity, but sometimes they can do the exact opposite. They can spiral us down into an even deeper place of confusion and self-doubt.
But in this case, it will help give you an extra boost of self-confidence. Call yourself the unruly victim; let the world know where you stand, and let them know that you mean business.
Remember- you are always right. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.
No one understands your struggles, as they don’t see the things you see or feel the things you feel.
It’s not because they don’t want to understand you, it’s because they can’t. This struggle is yours and only yours to keep.
Do not settle for less. Never be satisfied with what you have, there is always room in your life for the finer things.
Of course, you can always just be satisfied with what you already have, but that’s boring.
Be dissatisfied-let it fester inside you, blooming over every aspect of your life. It is sure to make life more interesting.
Never let your guard down.
If you’re a real problem-solver, then you know that you don’t need any kind of inconsistency in your life. There is no room for toxic people to drag you down, you are better off on your own.
The past is your closest friend. Let it be your guide, even a spiritual teacher. The past happened for a reason so instead of letting it wear away with the test of time, take it with you everywhere you go.
Apply the past whenever possible: for relationships, career aspirations, or during any other time when it will serve itself well.
Why? Because change is scary and you don’t need that kind of stress in your life. In with the old and out with the new.
Accept the situation you are in. Do nothing. That’s it.
The more you fight it, the worse it’s going to get, so just let it be. Some things simply weren’t meant to be our battles and that’s okay.
Acceptance is all you can do now, so sit back and let nature run its course. And remember, no matter the outcome, don’t resist. You asked for it.