Signs Your Relationship Isn’t What You Thought It Was

By: Lucia Elmi

No more nonsense. (Credit: Talkspace.com)

Being a relationship can be a core part of finding just one of the many joys life has to offer.

It is a place where you can find comfort, love, and genuine acknowledgment. Having someone by your side to be they’re with you every step of the way, even in tough times, is a blessing to have in life.

However, no relationship is perfect. Sometimes things won’t turn out the way you expected them to. In fact, one of the biggest problems people face in relationships is when one partner is feeling side-lined by the other.

It’s an unfortunate situation to be in, and definitely a frustrating one at that.

Being able to identify the problem before it escalates anymore will put you in a better position to be able to determine where you would want to take your relationship from there.

If things clearly aren’t going to work out, and you’re unable to get through to your partner, it may be time to find someone else.

One sure way to know if your partner just isn’t as into the relationship as you are is when they do not prioritize time into their schedule to spend time with you.

In order to develop and strengthen a relationship, quality time is key to making it happen. If they make excuses to spend time with you or say they’d rather spend time with their friends, it is a tale-tell sign that you’re not at the top of their priority list.

Another sign is if they struggle to answer the question, “What are we?”

If the feeling is mutual, then usual there is no struggle between the partners to know the answer this question.

However, if they hesitate to answer the question or try to change the subject, then this may be a sign that they’re not looking to make this a serious relationship.

There are other things that may not be so obvious, such as if your partner makes a light-hearted joke about everything you say.

There’s nothing wrong with the kind of guy or gal who is a big jokester. They can be the life of the party and bring a smile to everyone’s face.

However, there is a line to be crossed when light-hearted joking becomes a form of mockery about everything serious you may be trying to get across to them.

This can signify a number of things. For one, it could be that they are attempting to keep an emotional distance from you.

They may not feel as strongly about you as you may feel about them, thus they attempt to keep a distance without actually having to come out and say it.

It can also mean that you’re a side piece.

Teasing and joking in excesses is a clear indicator that they don’t take you or the relationship seriously, with can get frustrating when trying to bring up serious matters. It will make you feel like your take an endless trip on a merry-go-round.

It’s even worse if they have the courage to make fun of you even in front of their closest friends, or even yours.

This might be their way of keeping you in a position that will prevent you from finding out about their other special someone.

Also, if you’ve become their go-to ATM machine, you have some serious pondering to do.

It is okay to ask for a little help from your partner when it comes to financial matters, but if becomes a regular thing, then that is a boundary that has been crossed.

You will know when things have escalated if you refuse to give them money and they start fights with you over it. That is a sure indicator that you’re just a wallet to them.

No one wants to be taken advantage of. It will leave you feeling drained and utterly humiliated. Know the signs and what to do about it if you ever find yourself in a position like this.